Columbian is a colleague of mine who teaches maths and remains one of my favourite people I work with. He's dedicated, articulate (despite being EAL), witty and works hard. He's also hugely liberal, cares about the environment, is engaged to a ceramicist, volunteers at a zoo and reads the Guardian every day-despite these aspects of his personality I still like him.
On the final day before we broke up Pretty Boy, a year 10 black boy who fancies himself far too much, came to our office to get a password for a website we encourage our students to use. As Columbian was finding it for him South African, the head of department, strode in and spoke to Pretty Boy, made a few jokes at his expense about his increasing height (he must be about 6ft 1) which he laughed at and asked him where he was from.
'[Local Estate], but my Parents are from Nigeria'
'Bandefor are you then' replied South African, this being a mildly derogatory African term for someone.
'Nahhhh, hahaha' the Pretty Boy laughed
'Here, this is the password Pretty Boy' said Columbian and started showing him how to access and use the website....before following this with 'dis is de technology for the 21st Century for de village' in a mock African accent. Everyone in the office burst into laughter, Pretty Boy included. Columbian kept interceding this accent into his explanation of the website and also while he talked about the best way to revise over the half term.
'Thanks sir' he smiled as he left the office to catch up his friends who were waiting outside.
'I bet you never thought that two years into your career you would start racially abusing the children' I said to Columbian and we laughed about the exchange.
'Never....that's what this school does to you'.
There's many ways to think about this exchange, some friends, and particularly my mother, was shocked at this, I didn't really think anything much of it until I listened to her prim and shocked opinion of it. She found it to be hugely inappropriate thought it encouraged a separation of races and reinforced negative stereotypes of Africa and Africans. And this was from someone who reads the Telegraph.
But that completely detaches the story from the situation, everything that was happening during that exchange was positive for the student, we've created a warm and welcoming department and office for students where they can come and speak to us quite openly. Part of this is appropriate banter which both students and us as teachers and adults enjoy and understand. Would it be less appropriate for a year 7 student-yes, would this sort of banter work with a girl in our school-no, I don't think it would. Would it work with all the boys in year 10, again probably not. Conversations like that need to be directed to the right child.
There are moment when you need to be able to get children to snap to attention, shut up and listen be that because you want to tell them off or because you want to get a point across to them but when it's needed you also need to have a joke with them the same as you would with a colleague or even a friend. It's about building relationships with your students which are long lasting and meaningful for them. I don't think I really understood this when I started teaching when I was deliberately aloof and refused to speak to them about any non-maths related issues. What a complete fool I was, thankfully this only lasted no more than two months and now I make a meaningful effort to speak to student about their interests and what they do.
Pretty Boy left our office not only with a password but was also told how to use a website he would be unfamiliar with, got tips on how to revise but, more importantly, was happy and confident enough to also speak to three adults for fifteen minutes and know that if he ever needed help there is a place where he could come, get the help but also enjoy himself while he was there. A student enjoying himself should not an objective for any teacher but (usually) in a school is a consequence of students being in a place where they can learn and feel safe and valued. That's what the sort of department I want to work for.
'It's what this school does to you'.